As I mentioned yesterday, Ella and Rosie turned 3 yesterday! If you’ve followed me for any length of time then you probably have figured out that the past three years have been pretty hard.
Ella and Rosie are one of the best things that have every happened to me, but being a mom to twins comes with a unique set of challenges that I never could have known or expected.
So to celebrate their birthday, and to help myself process the last few years I thought I would share 3 things I’ve learned since becoming a mom to twins:
- Other people’s opinions really (really) don’t matter. When you are a mom to twins you have.to.do.what.works. There are things that I did that I swore I’d never do when I first became a mom to our oldest. There are things that I had to do that were absolutely necessary, and yet every comment in a Scary Mommy comment thread says that makes me a terrible mother. With twins, you survive. Period. Throw out the mom guilt, unfollow Scary Mommy, and raise those babies.
- Two babies at once really does equal double the work. Two babies close together is hard, yes (I’ve done that too)… but it’s not hard in the same way. There’s a lot of people who won’t understand this, even if they want to. It’s exhausting. It can be isolating to feel like no one understands what you’re going through (unless you are blessed to have other twin moms in your circle. I did, but none of them were close by). I wasn’t prepared for this particular hardship, but it pushed me to grow in a way I never would have otherwise. But along with double the work comes double the kisses, double the hugs, double the sweetness. And this makes it more than worth it.
- Being a loving mother is not dependent on what I can do for them. If I can’t breastfeed them, I’m still a loving mother. If one of them has to cry for a bit because I’m comforting sister, I’m still a loving mother. If I can’t baby wear like other moms I’m still a loving mother. I’m still a loving mother. I’m still a loving mother. And I keep repeating that until I believe it.
I could keep going… I’ve learned a lot since having twins. But I’ll keep it to these three lessons for today. Please believe me when I tell you that you are not alone. If your job as mama seems impossible today, I know you can get through it. Tomorrow will come, and you will be on the other side.
Until next time,
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